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I generally dont have problems keeping contact or finding something to discuss. in contrast, As someone else pointed out i tend to back down a bit in communications once i feel things are established. finally weve met. the reason for this i have spent weeks chatting to people only to them vanish or if we meet things dont click. So now i just wasted a lot of time. While i know dating is sometimes complicated i want to try an minimize this to an extent. Second ive noticed the more you communicate the less incentive the other person has to meet you. Although having said all this when things change it could be a potential sign of losing interest. Its hard to pinpoint. Sometimes you gotta ride things a little bit to find out.
now and then when you text you lose that context. Two Xs ago she was a mother of 3 and worked in the healthcare industry 12 hour shifts. So i didnt want to feel like i was intruding or smothering. So i would distance my advertising w her. One day she said oh that is Mon so your usual 2 day gap. Although i was on the -censured- w her since we are both in our 40s so i could tell by her voice how she was coming off. This is when i told her i ddint know w your busy schedule if you wanted to communicate oftener. So we have got that squared away.
I dont think right now it is a great red flag. more like a yellow flag. terrible be just more direct. I have a acquaintance like this ( earlier OLDate) That is similar to this an it took me a bit too get used to it. Although i did talk to her about being a great deal tactful. It something shes worked on. When she is texting are generally you at work or are you at home? you happen to be home i would kind of be annoyed to if someone did this. Although it would possibly be too soon to say anything.
How long was over time relationship and how long has shes been single. Its for sure a possible red flag. I dated someone who was 6 mos out a 20 year plus connection. I was very cautious to date this woman when i found this out. She sure me that she was over it. She first filed for divorce about 2 1/2 years prior to use meeting. Then they got together again for a few months an she realized it was a huge mistake. that has been her angle. about the other hand, Filing for divorce and actually have it official is two different things. The first 3 or 4 mos thins were ok but i could tell had been signs that she wasnt over it or ready to date. When the divorce went through things got more difficult. I had to deal w her baggage at all. i purchased "reprimanded" For things her wife did. Or she'd always compare. She started making excuses not to bash. We dated for around 14 mos before i broke things off. She admitted that she was not ready to date and we must of done [-censured-=https://www.bestbrides.net/afroromance-com-your-premium-choice-to-date-african-americans/]afroromance[/-censured-] casual. Which is what i suggested at all. It was mess chasing someone who was emotionally not available.
People are going to disagree or down vote this but generally you are right. My last GF was decently exciting. She oozed personality an it showed literally after 60 seconds of meeting her. I met her using OLD but it was totally by luck. She was a first timer and she had clearly had logged on to disable her OLD when i messaged her. I know not to ask this but i doubted it what she was doing on OLD. She asked me when we first met that lot of guys asked her the exact same. I told her because normally lot of people on OLD generally issues. from the tender was a sparkly, Younger,Fairly attractive an on first glance to good actually. So lot of guys first belief is why is she using OLD whats wrong w her. studying again can be problems started arising fairly soon. While i wouldnt say she was crazy in that sense she was a bit premature, Had no direction, Bounced/moved around plenty, Tended to be in an instant impulsive but in a mostly bad or questionable way, A bit asking for at times. Her reason for using OLD is the fact that town she lived in was mostly middle age divorced dads ( Im middle age professionally) With a number kids.
but nevertheless, I would say this she absolutely did NOT need internet dating to meet guys. She tended to get noticed out IRL an was often broached even when i was with her an wasnt looking. As i said style wise she had in spades an sparkles surrounded her. Although she had other inherent issues i said earlier. I wonder what most of these women at first glance are using OLD unless you will discover something inherently wrong w them maybe not mentally per say. Although issues or stuff occurring. Then thats when they must turn to OLD. Lot of times too busy or use that as an excuse to use OLD. Although then i wonder if they are that busy they may very well busy to actually date. Another reason is they own too many standards and expectations so they have to turn to OLD. my previous GF to her i met on Craigslist. She was approaching middle age at the time but was relatively younger looking an attractive. unhappily she was in that crazy an recently out of a abusive marriage ( Also abused growing up) Category you given. She had tons of mental issues it lasted a bit greater year an i had to walk away. As far as my recent GF her bouncing around and spontaneous erratic behavior caught up to us. She would up aligning herself w a sketchy woman she met in order to move in w her an now this lady is running her life which led to our eventual breakup. There is a ton of emotional stuff you will have to endure. You are likely large advertisement in for a very tough ride! Also these women often go back to their abusive Xs. You may also need to deal with him as well because these type of guys dont like to them go easily either. Lot of these women tend to be forever have emotional and mental issues through the abusive relationship. Some do recover with proper therapy most dont. Also if you are the first guy that dates them you've got to put up with the brunt of this. You also essentially tuning them up for the next guy. Thats if she recovers enough to possibly get into a decent enough partnership.
E has a problem with what I'm doing, It feels like i'm being parented and would like to rebel.
Ha now in order to kind scaring me lol. She told me this same thing last week. She felt any time i tried to stop her or in her words" tame her" She desired to do it more. in spite of this she told me that she needed someone to keep her more grounded. Then when i didnt care which will upset her to. So what i was suppose that to do here? One thing she would say is that i know myself but she never needed to expand on that. I think it meant that she would be getting into or have the potential to get into more stuff i wasnt around.
Yea her mother and father were fairly strict. She also went along to some boarding school. Which i would maybe understand if she was in her 20s planning to let go a bit. reality when we met she was turning 33. the girl with 34. She also has a daughter but she stays w her uncle. Kinda long article.
She moved all about. once met 2 mos later she moved. Then 3 mos therefore she moved again. Then 6 7 mos later she passed again. She aligned herself w this sketchy woman. It eventually led to our split up late Nov/Early Dec. We still talk but if i can ever figure out whats wrong w her i determine.
I think her been w her me knocked her down a notch. In some ways i kind of had a feeling thats what she wanted. She even told me several times if we werent together it would be worse. alternatively, It wasnt easy especially at first to i dunno contain her desires to do this. I wouldnt say im anti social but im not fundamental social person. I can go to events an handle myself okay. She was even surprised because she thought at first i was anti social. I just prefer not to at least most times lol.
She would say if i got her pregnant then she would stall. I just had serious doubts that she would be able to contain this. Her sprakliness/bubbly was both a double edge sword. As she tended get noticed sometimes unwanted an sometimes more "Party families, Which meant more potential stuff for her to obtain and headaches. I also think you probably right i had asked her if this wildness would disappear she said shes not sure maybe or maybe not. Did you also maneuver around a bunch? It seems like w her previous stories shes told me shes never stayed in one place over 2 years.